This week the class assignment was to take a few assessments and see how we communicate also we were to ak others to take the same assessment of how they see us as communicators. I completed the assessments and was surprised in some areas on how it came out. I asked my granddaughter Javon ( in photo above) who is 18 to do the assessment . I explained to her what it was for and she was all to happy to assist! After seeing the excitement in her face, I reminded her that she did live with me and allowence time was approaching, just kidding there was no bribbing at all. After seeing the results I was also surprised that in the verbal aggression and the communication inventory it was almost the same in the scoring with somme small changes. I contributed this to her living with me at different times in her life and for the last 4 years she has been with me and we have become closer, and I do believe that makes a big difference. I asked my youngest daughter who is 35 to do the same thing and it was totally different in how the scores were from her viewpoint.

 I have realized that that is due to me not communicating with her the same as with Javon. I tend to allow the grandchild to get away with more that I ever allowed my daughter to get away with and back when my daughter was growing up, I was not a good communicator and did not know how to express myself the way I do now. This has really been an eye opener as to how I am percieved by myself and others and I will ensure that I do a better job at being mindful of how I verbalize, use gestures and tones.